I’m currently carrying out free consultations by phone and by e-mail to answer questions about personal difficulties that readers of this blog have. One reader came to me recently asking for advice on how to get in with established groups of friends (this was a problem that arose from joining a new social group). Since this a problem common to many of us, I asked his permission to share some of the answers that I gave here.

One of the subsets of desires that will influence your emotional well-being is needs/obligations. They can have a deep and pervasive effect because if you don’t manage them then they end up controlling you and determining how you feel about particular events and results. Through an explanation of why this is the case and how you can overcome them you will maintain a better control of your emotions and will thus act and live better.

Fantasizing can bring powerful benefits when used sensibly. Left to get out of control it does far more harm than good and contributes to self-defeat. This article explains why and how to counter it. This article is 1440 words long and will take about 7 to 8-minutes to read.

This article details an alternative and much easier approach to achieving great things other than through pinnacle goal-setting. This article is 1000 words long and will take about 5-minutes to read.

This article is the fourth in a short series that defines the underlying thinking upon which the ideas, theories, and methods written about in this blog are based. This helps you to understand what makes the content of this blog significantly different from other blogs about self-development. This article is 860 words long and will take about 4 to 5-minutes to read.

Pinnacle goal-setting sets us up to want things that prove too hard to do and so we quickly end up feeling frustrated and then we experience despair. This article explains why that happens so that you can take care to avoid this problem. This article is 1500 words long and will take 7 to 8-minutes to read